Supporting Emotional Wellbeing During Pregnancy: A Guide for Partners and Loved Ones
Pregnancy is a journey that affects more than just the person carrying the baby—it’s a shared experience, especially for partners and close support people. While the physical changes are obvious, the emotional shifts that come with pregnancy are often less talked about—but just as real.
If you're supporting someone through pregnancy, your presence, patience, and understanding can make a world of difference.
Why Emotional Support Matters
Pregnancy brings a whole mix of emotions: excitement, anticipation, anxiety, exhaustion, joy, and sometimes fear or sadness. These feelings are valid, and they don’t always follow a predictable timeline.
Your support doesn’t have to come in the form of grand gestures—often, it’s the small things that matter most. A listening ear, a calm voice, a simple “How are you feeling today?” can go a long way.
What You Might Notice
Everyone experiences pregnancy differently, but here are some common emotional shifts to look out for:
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Mood swings or tearfulness that seem to come out of nowhere
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Worry or anxiety about labour, parenting, or health
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Changes in self-esteem or body image
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Fatigue and emotional exhaustion
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Withdrawal or needing more space
These are normal responses to a massive life change—but if they’re persistent or seem overwhelming, it may be time to gently suggest some extra support.
How You Can Help
Here are some simple, meaningful ways to support someone emotionally during pregnancy:
1. Listen without fixing
Sometimes, the most helpful thing you can do is just listen. You don’t need to solve every problem—just being present and validating how they feel is powerful.
2. Ask, don’t assume
Try: “What do you need from me right now?” or “Would it help to talk, or would you rather some quiet time?” Everyone has different needs—asking shows respect and care.
3. Reassure and affirm
Remind them they’re doing an amazing job. Pregnancy can be tough on confidence—your steady encouragement can be grounding.
4. Share the mental load
Offer to help with planning, appointments, or day-to-day tasks. Reducing stress where you can is a great way to show support.
5. Stay informed together
Learn about pregnancy, birth, and emotional wellbeing together. Understanding what they’re going through can help you respond with empathy.
6. Take care of yourself, too
Supporting someone else means you also need to keep your own tank full. Eat well, rest, talk to someone if you need to, and remember: your wellbeing matters too.
When More Support is Needed
If you notice ongoing sadness, high anxiety, withdrawal, or signs of depression, encourage them to speak to their GP, midwife, or obstetrician (I’m always open to having this conversation with my patients and their partners too). Mental health care during pregnancy is essential—not optional.
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
Let’s be honest—there’s no such thing as the perfect partner or support person. You don’t have to get it right all the time. But your willingness to show up, to try, to ask questions, and to be present? That’s what really counts.
Pregnancy can feel big, emotional, and sometimes uncertain. But walking through it together—openly and with care—makes it easier and more meaningful for everyone involved.
You’re doing better than you think.
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Dr Stephen Cole
Obstetrician | High-Risk Pregnancy & Twins Specialist
By Steve – For the whole support crew, not just the bump.